did you know that the mother of the bride is to buy her dress first and then all of the other mothers are to match her in fabric choice and length? who knew? since mike's sister is also planning a wedding this is one of the tidbits we discovered together as there are two mothers on their side that are in both weddings. apparently the step mother and mother of the groom went dress shopping and the bridal boutique insisted they have a photo of the mother of the brides gown before proceeding even though they knew the color. again. who knew? the cooridination goes as far as if the MOB is wearing a bolero all should wear a bolero, really?
this led to lots of polite 'just let us know when your mom picks a gown so we can start shopping' talk, which is nice but i say - screw it! wear what you want, don't look like a bride or a bridesmaid, and dress appropriate for the formality of the event and you'll be all set, am i wrong? let's discuss.
Ugh, it's funny you bring this up, because we've been dealing with this problem lately. I never knew that was real wedding etiquette, but my FMIL did lightly suggest that she would wait until my mom bought her clothes before she started shopping a few months ago. We were never that worried about it from the beginning anyway, since both mothers have very different styles and don't often even wear the same colors, but she insisted. Now she keeps asking me whether or not my mom has bought her clothes almost every time I see her. I told her that we're waiting until we go on a shopping trip a month before the wedding to buy my mom's outfit so she should just go shopping now if she's worried about finding something. So even though she knows my mom is waiting to buy her clothing and it doesn't matter to either the groom or myself, she's still waiting. But so impatiently. Honestly, I think it's a silly piece of etiquette. As long as the formality is similar and matches the formality of the wedding, then why should anyone care? Oh moms...
ReplyDeleteScrew all wedding rules that dont make sense
ReplyDeleteThat definitely belongs on the silly wedding rules list.
ReplyDeleteUgh I learned this from Ryan's mom...who absolutely insisted on adhering to it. I think it's kind of silly, I'd rather everyone just feel pretty in what they're wearing, but that's just me. That is hardcore that the wedding shop wouldn't let them proceed!
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ReplyDeletemy mom and his both were AFRAID to wear the same color.
I had heard of this before. But no way in hell was Mr B's Mum going to do ANYTHING polite. She wore HOT pink. Yep....
ReplyDeleteI do think this rule is a bit crazy. But it is nice to discuss it with each other, so you're not wearing the same thing, or clashing with each other like crazy.
I really thought she'd show up in a white dress, so I guess pink was better. Ha
I think this is nuts! I've never heard of it before and thankfully no one has brought it up. Lets keep it that way!
ReplyDeleteThat's so funny. I'd never heard of that either. Though in one of my posts last week I shared about our mom's dresses. They do match in the style and formality and my mom is wearing a bolero and his mom has a little jacket over hers as well. But we didn't care about that. I just didn't want one to be in a more formal gown and the other to be in a sundress. And I wanted the colors to be sort of complimentary but it wasn't a huge issue to me.
ReplyDeleteI think it's kind of silly that the salon insisted on having a photo of the other gown. :P
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